A guest post written by Ame Schneider from Los Angeles, California
I’ve been praying a lot lately about the idea of forgiveness. It is so easy to take offense, to hold a grudge, and to obsess over how you were right, and the other person was wrong. I have found that when I am consumed with negative ideas, that my body will express that in some form of illness. Sometimes it can be difficult to snap out of those feelings of resentment, especially when you aren’t feeling well. How do we let go of the hurt of feeling wronged, misunderstood, taken advantage of – and find both physical and mental freedom?
I have found it helpful to stop and pray. To get still, let go of a human sense of right or wrong, and trust in a divine sense of only good. One of my favorite articles on this issue is by Mary Baker Eddy, the Discoverer and Founder of Christian Science. It is called simply “Taking Offense.” When I first read this line, “It is our pride that makes another’s criticism rankle, our self-will that makes another’s deed offensive, our egotism that feels hurt by another’s self-assertion,” I realized that I had to put myself in check when I was angry about something, and be conscious of how I was reacting – choosing instead to respond with Love. Applying this concept of forgiveness, for the other as well as for myself, I am always wonderfully and pleasantly surprised by how good I start to feel!
The article continues by saying, “We should remember that the world is wide; that there are a thousand million different human wills, opinions, ambitions, tastes, and loves; that each person has a different history, constitution, culture, character, from all the rest; that human life is the work, the play, the ceaseless action and reaction upon each other of these different atoms.” What a beautiful way to think about the person you are having a conflict with, and choose to have patience and compassion and the desire to find a solution to the challenge that is presented. I know from experience you will start to have a “whole-souled” spiritual sense of health and happiness. Forgiveness is a beautiful thing!