A guest post written by Noie LaRue
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you kept on blaming yourself or others for the things that are going wrong? I hadn’t really realized that I did that all that often until I was on a trip and at each roadblock or problem my first reaction was to cast that blame: “I know I had explained what he needed to do more than once. It certainly isn’t my fault!” Or, “I e-mailed my car reservation in plenty of time and now they want to “upgrade” me to a truck! Who is to blame for that mistake?!” Or, “I did leave the chicken coop door open and the chickens got out. I guess I am to blame for this one!”
Why do we spend time trying to figure out who is to blame? In the Bible there is a story of a blind man surrounded by others who are trying to figure out who is to blame for this man’s blindness – had his parents sinned, or had this man done something terrible? Jesus’ answer to these people was that they were all wrong – this problem of blindness was to glorify God. Rather than finding blame, Jesus healed the blind man.
Now, the focus on healing instead of blaming in this Biblical story woke me up. I realized an attitude of looking for solutions instead of looking for someone to blame certainly added to a healthier atmosphere for the blind man and the onlookers. This same focus in any situation would promote health in a number of ways, so I confronted my much more insignificant happenings in the opening paragraph and deleted the blaming to find kind and worthwhile answers. What I found when I changed my thinking was that the task to be completed by my friend went smoothly and without a hitch! After a few hours, the car rental agency just happened to find the exact car I had asked for and even brought it to my location. And, the chickens – after clucking around for a few minutes – the three of them decided they would rather scurry back in the coop where there was lots of food that they didn’t have to hunt for!
My point in these light-hearted experiences is how much healthier we feel as we, without stress and anxiety, let go of the “who done it” and blame and replace it with the opportunity to kindly and wisely heal or fix any situation!