A guest post written by Ingrid Peschke, health blogger, legislative liaison for Christian Science and spirituality in Massachusetts
It’s Mother’s Day this coming Sunday so today’s blog is a tribute to moms everywhere.
Mother’s Day in America had its beginnings back in the late 1800s when grieving mothers from both the North and the South came together after their sons died in the Civil War. They raised a collective voice with mothers across the world asking for an end to war. On May 9, 1914, a Presidential proclamation declared the 2nd Sunday of May to be observed as Mother’s Day.
As I see it, a mother’s job is to raise a well-adjusted human being, ready to give back and to make a difference. At the heart of her teaching should be the nurturing of qualities that end wars in all kinds of places, starting on the home front–with friendship and sibling squabbles, as well as the “wars” that can rage within.
A mother models and emphasizes the basics of human kindness: peace-keeping, forgiveness, grace. This is what contributes to the health of one’s family and ultimately to the health of one’s community and world.
May happens to be mental health month and good mothering is a big part of the solution to maintaining mental well-being.
My own mother’s example–along with that of some pretty amazing men and women in my life–taught me a few key ingredients I’ve added to the recipe of raising my family:
- Respond with love
- Form good habits
- Walk in the other person’s shoes
- Be a good listener
- Practice patience
- Learn to laugh
- Have good manners
- Forgive, forgive again
- Be honest
I’ve found practicing these ideas is easier and more possible with a solid spiritual foundation, so I would add “love God” to my list, too. Without that you might think, “I/he/she isn’t capable of forgiving, being honest, (fill in the blank)…” But when you realize that the creator of the universe–everyone’s divine parent, or Mother–actually compels us and created us to be all of those good things, it’s so much easier.
Imagine if we all followed these few points perfectly every day and maintained peace on our home fronts. Arguments would end or perhaps never begin. Friendships would form and remain strong. And the ultimate would be the cessation of war…
Even with the best of intentions, one of the enemies in raising children in today’s social media culture is the constant influx of information and “screen time” they are faced with. There’s a place for social media interaction, but nothing replaces real time/real life experience.
As you honor the mothers in your life including those who are no longer with you, here’s something to ponder from a great spiritual thinker, healer–and also a mother:
A mother’s love behind words has no language; it may give no material token, but lives steadily on, through time and circumstance, as part and paramount portion of her being. -Mary Baker Eddy